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* p0 D) `* p$ I) \3 K0 X/ k$ I作者:Yuming Feng
* V3 F/ `! y# d# \% Q来源:Quora,在Quora被点赞800+ 我花了一段时间才意识到,我现在对西方人的态度很防守。, @$ [0 C& e& v' O
想到我23岁之前的年龄,我对欧洲的文化和制度充满了羡慕之情。在中国,年轻人没有被允许和老年人平等的说话,这让我很不高兴。每当我与长辈或者领导有分歧时,我被要求不要顶嘴。即使结果证明我是正确的,它仍然没有意义。我只是一个长得矮的男人,没有得到应有的尊重!3 J5 r# u7 e, X; n) b1 k
我将其归咎于社会和制度。因此,我努力工作,学习海洋监管。老实说,我并没有真正鄙视我的国家或制度。我只是需要一个参考来比较,而且我知道只有在两个国家居住时才能得出结论。; q' |& o$ n$ m
最后,我在23岁时独自一人来到德国。
! q9 Y( n& H! w8 d在第一个月的总体印象是非常积极的。但是后来事情开始变得有点烦人。当我做不恰当的事情时,我总是受到德国人的告诫:“这里是德国,而不是中国,您必须以我们的方式来做”。
: w/ S! `, F2 Z+ }; J我承认,作为外国人,我对德国的生活方式不太了解。我希望做到,但我也需要时间。但是,为什么那些围绕着我的人总是提起“德国VS中国”?在那个年龄,听到这样的短语我感到非常不舒服,但后来我仔细地重新审视了这段记忆:这实际上是种族主义。
' D) D& O8 g! T( |这种指责的心态是,中国人的生活水平不及德国人先进,所以我需要摆脱任何野蛮的生活习惯。6 ]' U1 M2 O, Y2 L% [( ?* A
但是真的是这样吗?看看我被指控的原因:我正在煮中国的火锅,邻居抱怨气味很浓;我没有在不恰当的时间练习钢琴的,但是仍然抱怨说我的演奏很糟糕,应该停下来(我正在学习它,但我肯定演奏得并不完美)。5 m5 ] ~$ I/ h. `
然后我慢慢意识到,我的中国邻居是多么宽容,他们在帮助我时多么有人情味。
0 b1 F" w: o( |这是我第一次在西方生活感到不自在。但是,我告诉自己,这可能仍然是文化问题,我不应该太个人化。毕竟,我的同事们仍然对我很乐于助人。因此,只需适应它即可。6 @- x5 ?% O, S
但是接下来几个月发生的事情彻底抹去了我对德国的好感:- ?) v) u5 `" Q3 F
作为大学生,我应该学习德语课程。我被分配到一位名叫萨宾的德语老师。她对我的第一印象是非常积极的,她是一位老太太,但很优雅。良好的英语口语能力,甚至会说一些中文。
& r0 ?- M4 k& L* B# y但令我惊讶的是,在我上第一堂课时,她问我:“你如何看待大和尚(Dalai Lama)嘛?”6 w' h3 A6 |+ q* ~0 ^0 I3 E
我告诉她:“对我来说,他是一个机会主义者,我不是佛教徒,而是穆斯林,但是对于中国人来说,他的名字对我们来说是叛徒。”
0 ~& G: ~8 |$ T8 @+ c" z7 A尖锐的沉默。我天真地不知道自己是怎么倒霉到这种地步的。1 j5 R. ^: ?) O/ E' j4 p5 Y
在接下来的时间,她从未看过我。每个学生都应该被鼓励着阅读德语文本,但是每当需要阅读德语时,萨宾都会故意让我不要阅读。然后转弯跳到我旁边的学生那里。
# Y) B; @1 H, w1 r+ {我以这种方式对待了两个星期。然后我终于私下问她,我到底是怎么了。她说:“我是大和尚(Dalai Lama)的追随者,我反对不尊重他的中国人。”
* v% q9 s. _% [9 o$ o% h( v“所以呢?你不会教我吗?” 我感到更加困惑。
) a" W. `7 N6 B h$ B0 l6 e2 i8 G她回答:“不,我的教学很好,但这是我的课,所以你必须接受我的教学方式。”
* d' X2 N' p0 N6 I: U8 M: j我是一个非常脾气很好的人,并试图与我的中国同龄人交流我的经验。每个人都告诉我,萨宾确实是一个混蛋,我不应该接她的话。这就是他们告诉我的。 t5 d0 J; C6 L/ x" `; @- L; t
前几个星期,我准备好在课堂上和萨宾认真交谈。上课开始后,我在大家面前站起来,说:2 I" N" ?; q$ r- T* r; l- Q
“萨宾,我不知道你为什么反对我。但是这种态度对我们每个人都没有好处。您以这种方式继续工作非常不专业。我要求您保持对我的尊重,并立即停止这种冷暴力行为。”. v6 E7 x3 H b( i: q* n
她对我微笑:“我没有对你做任何事,因此我也不会做什么”
" b0 J5 O+ v M! r+ E$ w a“但是您故意将我与其他人隔离”,我已经很生气。
: e6 U9 P. H3 ` c“我没有。您的德语水平相当好,因此您无需像他们一样重复课文,如果您愿意的话,我会让您这样做。但这与我对你的个人感情无关。”
( q) O5 T% v! U0 L我试图让自己冷静下来,告诉自己,我的目的是获得成绩,并不是给这混蛋任何狗屁钱。9 C; \1 h* Z0 q# A( m6 F" D( t
但是我太天真了。全班都是韩国人和印度学生。我慢慢意识到,萨宾对中国和我们的文化随意地嘲弄。那些印度学生很高兴向中国人开火,他们站在萨宾身边,说着中国有多糟糕的故事,而我只能在那里听。当我抗议时,萨宾说:“让我们停止吧,否则现在会有一些男孩哭泣。” 然后全班同学都充满了欢笑。4 J9 c6 u3 t/ S6 n {& w
我忍无可忍,我踢开教室门,去了院长的办公室。并说我从萨宾得到的待遇,仅仅是因为我的政治身份。我要求正式道歉,并立即要求转课。
0 k% B% Y" S; V& U5 Z院长只同意转班级,没有道歉。我告诉他,你问任何学生,他们都会告诉你课堂上发生了什么。他说他不相信。我警告过他,下次我会记录下这堂课,并将其放到互联网上让人们看到。, H5 V1 a; G. c4 ?
院长的反应令我震惊:“如果你敢这样做,将构成严重罪行。让自己冷静一下,孩子,我会安排一个更适合你的新老师,但不要为了自己的利益而录音”! y4 L4 n/ J& P# \3 }% _
我感到整个世界都屏住了呼吸。风雨在外面,但在我心里没有正义,一个中国学生独自生活在德国。我不想告诉我的父母,这是我自己惹的事!我知道谁能帮助我。毕竟,这是一件小事,我需要我的成绩,这很重要。
2 `( f) r( ~, o1 A* d2 W5 s0 i但是,那件事之后,我的整个神经都变了。我非常有动力去了解欧洲人对中国的偏见和事实。我对自高自大的欧洲人怀有敌意。最终,我成为了一个了解欧洲人对中国指控的人,并使自己成为一位好律师来帮助我的被告。' g7 _% M" w, k
我与西方人争论越多,我就越意识到他们所掌握的知识很少。我赢得辩论的越多,我越发现欧洲人实际上是多么脆弱。我对种族主义,误解和偏见变得非常敏感,我受到了我的中国朋友所喜爱。我很享受这样的时刻:我和我的对手展开激烈的争论,但却激怒了他并开始咆哮!
! i! b% T1 P& [1 w3 f7 u# ~9 G8 M失败者的本质是多么丑陋和虚弱。8 g* p% X- E2 j% p) s" v
人权,民主,自由,对我而言只是一个词:虚伪。那是我30多岁之前的状况。2 p; m! U" L( L8 h. }9 e
我在30多岁的时候,我觉得我不再对任何人都充满斗志。我和一个漂亮的德国女孩安顿下来。拥有一份好工作和一个幸福的家庭。尽管我仍然与愚蠢的人打交道,但我倾向于不将这种不满与整个德国国家联系起来。我仍然对他们的文化和社会制度持批评态度,其中许多人仍然拒绝接受它。我现在根本不在乎。明智的人们会听我讲话,并丰富他的思想,以建立一个更好的德国,愚蠢的人们只是不知道在听什么,所以我把时间节约在更好的事情上。
0 \7 ?* {4 [2 t6 n6 A2 Q; j9 e我现在不想太捍卫中国,因为我只是代表自己,我不是中国,而且我也不会得到中国的报酬。潮流在变化,尽管步伐缓慢,但越来越多的人意识到世界的真实面貌,尽管文化多样,但人性是相似的。作为一个中国人,我足够耐心地看到西方有一天意识到自己曾经有多么错误。如果我看不到,我的孩子们将会看到。我们将取得胜利,西方会衰败,这仅仅是人类基本公正和正义的要求。
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It took me sometime to realise that I was quite defensive to the westerners now.
0 N$ b& _4 Y3 L4 S/ sThinking of my age before 23, I admired the European culture and social system heartfully and tearfully. I was not happy with the fact that in China, the young people were not given the tolerance to speak equally to the older. Whenever I had disagreement with the elder, or the leader, I was asked to not talk back. Even though the outcome always proved that I was correct, it still meant nothing. I was a small man left alone without receiving the respect that I expect to have.
5 |' _2 Z' U' h" M5 f* cI blamed it to the society and system. As a result, I worked hard to take chances for studying oversee. Honestly, I didnot really despise my country or political systems that much. I just need a reference to compare, and I knew I can only conclude when I lived in both lands.
, Z& G' I8 b E/ TIn the end, I came to Germany all alone with scholarship at age 23.
& \5 I; w2 m$ J# M9 D+ E* T XThe general impression was quite positive in the first month. However things started to grow a bit annoying later on. When I did something improper, i was always lectured by Germans, that “here is Germany, not China, you have to do it in our way”.
9 P- f1 p, o& G) b% {I admit as a foreigner, I’m not familiar with the details of living manners in Germany. I wished to, but i also needed time. But why those people surround me always brought up “Germany VS China”? At that age, I was very uncomfortable to hear it such phrases, but later i carefully revisit such memory: it was actually racism.% Q$ ]4 I9 a5 `0 I+ Q2 g1 Z X
The mentality behind such accusation, is that Chinese living standard is less advanced than Germans, so I need to get rid of any barbarous living manners.
) Z6 |9 `) [* GBut is it really so? Look at what I was accused for: Im cooking the Chinese hot pot, the smells is strong thus the neighbour complains; I'm practicing my piano NOT during Ruhrigzeit, but people still come to complain saying that my play was terrible and I should stop (Im learning it surely I didnot play it perfectly). p' n0 P) z: a" H$ x% d) P- z
Then I slowly realised that how tolerant my Chinese neighbours were, and how deep human touch they had in helping me., [% R/ q! c$ ~8 c7 \$ d! k( }
This is the first moment that I felt uncomfortable for living in the west. But, i told myself, it might be still culture problems, and I should not take it too personally. After all, my colleagues were still helpful and nice to me. Thus just get adapt to it.0 z1 Z1 O+ y2 W7 F; g/ M4 P5 {2 r; U8 A
However what happened in next few months completely wiped out my good impression for Germany:9 P% n8 G. j* k+ s
As university student I’m supposed to take the German languages courses. I was assigned to a German teacher, named Sabine. Her first impression to me was quite positive, an old lady but with grace. Nice speaking skills in both English, and even could speak some Chinese.
1 }' W3 n0 ]2 L7 L. D& rBut to my surprise, at my first class i was asked by her: “How do you think of Dalai Lama?”
6 o9 D8 ?2 {' \, a& ]I told her: “to me he was an political opportunist, i was not a buddhist but a Muslim, but for a Chinese his name means a traitor to us.”
2 i' W* o5 z$ t/ ^A sharp silence. I naïvely knew nothing for what misfortunate that i was brought into.; A6 t a q8 }1 E$ o" D) y
For the rest of the whole class, she never looked at me. Each student should be encouraged to read the German text, but whenever it should come to be, Sabine intentionally ask me not to read. Then the turn jumped to the student next to me.0 w1 N( L p: o* R' ^1 i+ w
I was treated for such manners for two weeks. Then I finally asked her in private what was wrong her to me. She said:” I'm a follower of Dalai Lama, I'm against Chinese who disrespect him.”
/ x V+ ^5 R* M: ^“So what? You are not going to teach me?” I feel more confused.. N. c4 f: p+ s5 t$ ^
“No, I'm teaching well, but this is my class, so you have to accept my way of teaching” She replied.
; T H \% w0 W/ w- b4 CI was a very good tempered person, and tried to talk with my Chinese peers of my experience. Every told me that Sabine was really a SOB, and i should never pick her up. That is all they told me.' k, m- J2 F1 t' ?
The other week, i was prepared to seriously talk to Sabine in class. After the class began, I stood up in front of everyone, and saying:
9 _4 @5 r( D7 y: Q9 g" p) I“Sabine, I do not know why you are against me. But such attitude will not do any good to either of us. You are very unprofessional in remaining in this way. I demand you hold the respect that you should towards me, and stop this cold violence immediately”* Q. W) v& D6 R* F8 Q) N
She was smiling at me: “I did not do anything to you, therefore I will do nothing”# U2 A3 }3 e- D2 `
“But you purposely isolate me from the group” I was very angry already.
* Y6 F% M( H2 a% m$ v* p“I did not. Your german was quite good so you do not need to repeat the text like they do, if you wanted then I will let you do it. But that has nothing to do with my personal feelings to you”! ^$ G# Y0 [, y) A# t
I tried to calm down myself, telling me that my purpose here is to get my grades, i got my grades and paid no shits to this asshole.
8 U7 \, [$ \/ n# `& x) X4 V' @) bBut i was too naïve. The class was full of Koreans and Indian students. I slowly realised that Sabine randomly made mockeries on China and our culture. Those Indian students were happy to open fire on Chinese, they sided with Sabine to exchange stories for how bad China is, and i was all left there listening. I protested, Sabine said:”let us stop it, otherwise some boy will cry now.” Then the whole class was full of laughter.4 b- p% T" S+ t
I was to my limit, i kicked out of the classroom, and went to the dean’s office. And stated all the fucking treatment I received from Sabine simply because my political identification. I demand an official apology and ask for transfer class immediately.
! V6 _/ l8 t8 q g; \% h9 u+ q. IThe dean only agreed on transferring, no apologies. I told him you ask any students they will all tell you what has happened in the class. He said he did not believe it. I warned him, I will record the class next time and put it on the internet to let people see.' `0 P9 b& }' v6 [/ w1 j; p
The dean’s response was a shock to me: “If you dare do so, you will commit a serious crime. Just calm down yourself, i will arrange a new teacher that suits you better, but do not do audio recording for your own good, son”6 J# X/ o3 b* n/ q, U1 b: Z
I felt the entire world held its breath to me. Raining out side but storming in my heart, and there is no justice for a Chinese student living alone in Germany. I did not want to tell it to my parents. I took it myself. I knew nobody that could help me. After all, it is a small matter, i needed my grades, that all matters.$ g! I* |- k, i8 P- q+ R1 {
However, after that incident, my entire nerve has been shifted. I become super motivated to understand the bias and facts of Europeans of China. i become very hostile to arrogant Europeans. Ultimately, I became of person that was knowledgeable in many of Europeans’ accusation against China, and made myself a nice lawyer to help my defendant.
! U( R( E# @1 V6 W! f! C) c) WThe more I argued with Westerners, the more I realised how little knowledge they have; the more I won a debate, the more I found how fragile the Europeans actually were. I turned very sensitive to racism, misconceptions and biases, i was beloved by my chinese friends. I enjoyed a lot the moment i confronted my rival with nice argument, but making him enraged and started to bark.7 \1 b' [1 M( e, L
How ugly and weak, this is the nature of losers.! u" r0 A7 P8 f" A. U* z
Human rights, democracy, freedom, to me those are only one word: hypocrisy. That is the condition before my 30s.
+ f& p0 S+ l# JI'm in my early 30s, i felt I'm not that full of fighting spirit to any person any longer. I settled down myself, being with a nice German girl. Having a nice job and nice family. Although still dealing lots of nasty things with stupid people, I tend to not relate such unhappiness to German nation as whole. I still have my criticism towards their culture and social systems, and many of them still refuse to accept it. I simply did not care so much now. Wise people will listen to me, and enrich his thoughts for a better Germany, stupid people just do not know what is listening so I just save my time for better things.& V0 v5 J) k1 n$ \+ u- c
I did not want to defend China so much now, because i only represent myself, I'm not China, and I do not get paid by China. The tides are changing, despite slowly, but more and more people realise how the world is really like, how human natures are similar despite of the culture diversities. As a chinese I'm patient enough to see the west one day realise how wrong they used to be. If i do not see it, my kids will. We will prevail, and west will descend, that is merely a request of basic human fairness and justice.
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